'Why did I get married?

This is an interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'and i wanna share with you my views regarding this movie which i know if you have watch it you could relate what i am saying in here. This is just my opinion.
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship.
There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT and believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT
But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'
Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . .'
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.
But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.
Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!
That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you have accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I'm not just talking about marriage.
I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'
I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says its first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

My main message???
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Cousin's Wedding

Just recently my cousin on the father side ties a knot in the Philippines. They had a church wedding which the held at the Holy Rosary Parish in Angeles Pampanga. Steve as we fondly call him works in Dubai where he meet his now wife Jenny. Before the wedding they send a message at my Friendster asking me if I can go home and be one of their witness at the wedding. Sorry to say I turn them down for the reason that I can’t leave the country yet, I am still waiting for my interview for the green card. I explain to them naman the reason which they understand. They sent me some pictures of their wedding that I use to post here at my blog. See pics……











Steve and Jenny we wish you a fruitful years of marriage full of patience and understanding, a marriage blessed with kids he he he. I just hope the love that you have shown with each other will continue “ kahit maputi na ang buhok nyo” and you will remember what the bible says “na ang sinumang pinag-isa ng Diyos ay hindi kayang paghiwalayin ninuman”.

November Birthday Celebrants

imikimi - Customize Your World

imikimi - Customize Your World

imikimi - Customize Your World
November birthdays are here…… speaking of this special day, November 2 and today November 9 are birthdays of three people nearest to my heart. One is the cousin of my husband Chuck(b-day Nov 2), my cousin Imee and the other one is a good friend of mine Jackie (b-day today).Chuck is the first cousin of my hubby on the father side. They are very close that he get hubby as God father of his son. Both had happy childhood memories and until now they still keep in touch. When i came to US and was introduced to them i find him and his family,his sisters and their hubbys to be very accomodating and understanding. I could say understanding because they know that i am still adjusting to cultures and everything and they are very supportive. The reason why i feel at home. I was touched when their welcome hugs assures me that i would be fine and that this is my home with them and my husband. And i thank this man so much. Imee is my second cousin on the mother side. We go to the same school when we are in the high school became classmates. She was my confidante when I had problems. We both have happy memories together going to parties, travelling the nearby provinces, dancing etc. and I was the God mother of her first child. I met Jackie when I applied a job at rrj company. Because her parents came from my province and she knows my dialect we become eventually close friends. She is somewhat a lesbian but I was the tool for her to become a renewed person embracing the belief that she is not a man but a woman when I brought her to a Catholic fellowship EL SHADDAI. From then on she become a regular attendee. She called me her humble soul saver. I think no not yet unless I could bring some he he he. But anyway I am happy if I could bring many sinners to Our Father’s arms. HHmmmnn I don’t want to preach and be emotional here. Once again to Imee and Jackie , how old are you? What???? Louder please.... Sorry folks, don’t want their age to be revealed here ahe he he he,Okey, will not blog it here, whisper it in my ears ha!My wish for both of you: May God shower you with everything that you wish for in life. Many happy returns of the Day. From my family and me our greetings HAPPY BIRTHDAY.

Breathtaking Scenic Views on Road to Connecticut

This are just few breathtaking shots from the road going to Connecticut. One cousin of my husband invite us to have lunch with them. I was amazed with this beautiful scenery around me. I feel I am in paradise and you will hear the camera of my cellphone in a never-ending clicking (my husband says will you shut off your phone) I can’t help it I want to get the breath taking scenic view and have it in my phone. If I could only put the whole view together I would really do it he he he. But now the leaves are falling an indication that Winter is approaching. The weather is kinda cold already and for people like us who come from the tropics, this is unusual. I even feel itchy and keep on scratching all over when I feel the cold. And even i feel those colds and itches I can never deny the fact that I am excited to see the snow in front of me. I want to play with it and possible take pictures since this is my first winter here. Before we just see it in the cards, books, movies but not this is the reality infront of me....

Thank God

Once again I thank Yahweh for everthing. All Praises and Glory to HIM. Here is my experience of this morning's AOS interview at the Garden City in New York. We leave the house at 7:00 to avoid the traffic and we reach the place at 7:30. We headed to the guards for security checks, putting our things on the counter, taking belts and jackets, then guard do the frisking like when you check in at the airport. Then another guard lead us to the waiting area (stayed there for 1 hour and 15 mins) we wait for our lawyer (she arrived qtr to 9:00 thanks God) when she saw us told me to go with her to the window and give my appointment letter. We wait for 10 mins. then the officer called our names and lead us again to the waiting area upstairs near the rooms of the Interviewer again we wait for our name to be called while waiting the lawyer told us to review the papers. 1 hr and 15 mins of waiting our names was called by a Black nice and smiling lady greet us good morning and lead us to her room. Told me to sit the side of the table, my husband beside me and the lawyer sits near him. She then ask us to stand and swear to say the truth which we did. Then proceed the questions while our lawyer is handing to her the evidence that we both prepare like credit cards, Telephone Bills, joint bank accounts, health insurance cards, rental contract, electric bills, church envelopes(for our tights), wedding favors, wedding album, pictures when we meet in the Philippines, pictures here in the US(together) certificate from Pre- Canon Seminar, cards that we give to each other, cards that we get from friends, invitation cards, our picture frames at the house, and his TOD which I am the beneficiary.
Here is my bunch of questions:
1. Your address
2. Zip code
3. Ask me questions on the part 3 of the I-184 processing info
4. If my husband has cellphone number(which I said no)
5. What is our telephone number (which said but did not give the area code) so she ask it but I could not understand what she is saying as her English is so slang and hard to understand until she said my area code-914 and I confirm yes.
6. Are you working
7. Where
8. What kind of work
9. When did I get married
10. Do I have children
11. How many
12. How old
13. Did I bring them here.
14. When did I arrived here
15. How many months I’ve been here
16. Where did my husband stay when he visited me in the Philippines
17. If I am not married in the Philippines and ask swear which I say yes.
18. How long have I been married?

For my husband:
1. If he is working
2. How much is the yearly salary
3. Where did he work
4. Why did he decide to marry me
5. If not married too
6. How many children did he have (he said no, this is his first marriage)
7. What do we have in common.

After the questions she take my 1-194 told us to go downstairs and wait for my passport at the waiting room. We waited there for 1 hour and a half, my name was called then the officer told me that my passport was stamp, which is equivalent to a green card, that I would could travel out of country if I want to even if the true green card is not yet in my hand, I could work and she also told me to file a removal of conditions to renew my green card 90 days before it expires and then congratulates us.

AOS Interview

As of this time I am busy preparing for my AOS interview this Wednesday, Nov. 5th at the Garden City, New York. I, hubby and our lawyer prepare our files in folders labeled each. We had pictures of our wedding which I put in an album, our pictures together since I come to the USA up to present. House Rental that has our names in it, Bank statements, Credit card bills, wedding cards that we received, wedding invitations, wedding favors, our blow-up pictures that we display in our home, insurance cards, etc. Although I had all the files intact, there are still last minute checking if everything is okey. We meet with our lawyer this evening discuss the things that we will be needing until the last detail. We are ready for the interview questions if ever bunch of questions will be thrown to us. I pray and hope that this would come out good and that I could have my green card soon. We waited this 6 mos. To my readers, please help me pray. Thank you….

All Saints Day and All Souls Day

All Saints Day yesterday and All Souls Day today, as our tradition in the Philippines we visit the tombs of our dear one’s bringing with us flowers, lighting candles and offering prayers. I was so excited going to the cemetery here only to witness that it was not crowded just like we have in our country. And one thing I noticed is that we can’t leave a lighted candle as they might burn the grasses and would spread the fire. So what we did we just offer the flower, I insist to my hubby that I will light the candle for a few minutes, offer a prayer then we're set to go. It is really sad to know that this 1st and 2nd Day of November comes once a year and yet some of the departed loved ones were not even remembered by their relatives. I say this because I am a witness myself that only few people go there and offer flowers. The only indication that you will know that someone visit the grave is the bunch of fresh flowers that you will see on top of those graves. When we get home I waited for 6 pm to light again the candles as it is believed that there are some lost ghosts who is roaming around the house and trying to convey the living that they exist. I had an argument with my hubby regarding those candles as he said it not in their tradition but I still insist that I will light that at 6pm ‘til 8:30pm. Why 8:00 pm? because it is believed too that 8:00 pm is the time for the spirits of our loved one’s comes to visit us not to haunt us. They visit us because they want us to know they are just there whenever we need them. We may not see them but i feel they are there looking at us. So don't be scare if they sometimes tap you on the shoulder. Their tap is an assurance that they are just there still loving us, protect us and not harm us. Unless its a bad spirits they say. And Believing that God is light, some say that those spirits follow that light, and i think that lighting a candle is just lighting their way. This is just superstitious, there’s no harm in following it as this was handed already for generations. Others may not believe it and find it a little weird but to me for as long as it is not bad I will still follow and go on with the traditions. I believe that our departed loved one is always there to look at us and guide us. Sometimes without your knowing they are there to help us whenever we need them. Lighting a candle and offering a praying for them is my way of thanking them and letting them know that we always remember them. They maybe departed from us temporarily but the connection is still there. They will always be in our hearts because we loved them and they are part of our lives.